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So, I still feel like a man who hasn’t quite “arrived” yet. My time, which always seems like it’s just around the corner, still remains in the future.  Though it always seems like it’s getting closer — I don’t know if it’s true, but it certainly gives me hopes.

Perhaps you are in the same boat as I am.  With a head full of (possibly) great ideas, a mind full of “Not Quite Sure What Good It’s For” talents, and a heart full of hope and yearning, we sit and wait for the wee little selves to mature.  I feel like I’m still tilling the ground — I have built some stuff, not sure if any of them are going to eventually add to my foundation on which I’m going to blossom.  Or perhaps I am already beginning to bloom.  I have many things I’m super excited about right now.  It’s often hard to assess exactly where you are.

Regardless, maturation is a process you can work hard on but can’t quite rush.  While we wait for our Remarkableness to arrive, there are a few things we can be doing to pass time productively, even if they aren’t exactly contributing to making the fruition come sooner.

1. Discover and engage your bliss.  What do you do on your day off?  When you don’t have any responsibilities?  What gives you energy?  I like to read about boutique guitar pedals.  My wife browse through educational supply catalogs.  (She’s an education geek and homeschools our children)  Bliss, I hear, is a gateway to your Remarkableness.  Plus, it’s pretty darn fun.
2. Confirm what you shouldn’t be doing. (It’s called Experimenting)  There are many things to do in life and many of them sound good, though most are not right for you.  For example, if you are a musician and reading up on the latest promotional tactics — if any of them sound good to you, make you wonder if you should be doing them — just dip your toe in and try it out.  But be completely open to being a quitter and getting out if it’s not fun or if it drains you somehow.  It’s good to confirm the things you shouldn’t be doing, so you have less things to wonder about.
3. Take detours.  If you have a hunch that your Remarkableness involves something having to do with being online, stay off of it and do something completely different.  Why?  Because, once your Remarkableness arrives, you’ll be doing it all the time.  You’ll be immersed in it.  Nothing wrong with that at all, just that after that happens, you may be short of time to do other things.  Enjoy a different life while you can — especially if you know that working hard isn’t going to speed up the arrival of Your Time.
4. Talk to people.  Ask them what they do and what they think about what they do.  Is that person Remarkable or if not, where in lies their potential to be Remarkable?  We learn a lot by talking and listening to other people.
5. Do nothing. Finally, you should do nothing.  NOTHING.  Being occupied doesn’t make you Remarkable — in fact, it can be quite detrimental.  If it feels like you’re working hard, then slow down until that feeling is gone.  Being Remarkable will feel like you’re playing, not working.  It’ll be so fun that you’ll do it even if you’re not getting paid or rewarded or recognized.

There, Ari, 5 things you can do while you’re waiting for your remarkableness.  Do you do any of them?

Well, I do some, though not all.  I’ve done #2 a lot, I’ve done some of #1 and #4, but I’ve been so stubborn to really engage in #3 and #5.  I guess I still haven’t completely unlearned the notion that hard work is the key to success.

I really need to play more.

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