I am still constantly blown away by how strong our need for validation is, and how powerfully it affects us. Little kids come to us saying “look! Look at what I did!” What they’re really saying is “validate me!” It seems that there is a certain “amount” of …
Many of us are conditioned to believe that we are not worth anything. As we are, we are not presentable, we shouldn’t show up. We are allowed to see the light of day only when we are presentable and have something to offer. So we hide and keep the world …
In a true INFJ (Myers-Briggs personality type) fashion, I’ve been thinking about this. Why do I exist? I spent all my adult life trying to fix a problem: that my life would be a failure, if I didn’t work hard enough to fix it. Think about that for a moment. …
Making art can feel silly and indulgent. Recently I scrapped about 5 hours worth of bass and vocal takes, because I felt that the tempo wasn’t right. Tempo is a funny thing, how you feel differs depending on my energy level. If I feel tired it feels too fast and …
I used to believe that a “good” person is defined by how he prioritizes others’ needs over his own. Sacrifice himself, being a martyr. I thought that if you aren’t suffering, you aren’t trying hard enough. It’s quite a worldview, isn’t it? Actually there was nothing altruistic about …