Why We Suffer

I believe we go through hard times in life because it makes us better people. It doesn’t have to.  Hardships can make us resentful, angry, mistrustful, or traumatized.  Many people turn out that way. But painful experiences also make us pay attention.  And learn.  Failures and setbacks are better teachers than …

Two Ways in Which Music Helps You Manage Your Mood

It’s ironic that when self is the only thing you can control, that’s one thing you often feel powerless to.  If you feel that you are a slave to your mood’s haphazard whims, like a pendulum in stormy wind, then you’re getting weighed down by a backlog of emotions from …

Emotional Muscle, Music and Becoming Better at Getting What You Want

So what we desire in life is good experiences.  And we can’t create what we don’t have the capacity to create. It’s because of our “emotional muscle.”  Just like a real undeveloped muscle can’t lift heavy weights, an undeveloped emotional muscle have a hard time feeling strong emotions. For example, it’s …