How to Get Ready to Meet Your Soulmate (Digest)

Note: This is a digest version of a longer essay on preparing yourself for an encounter with your soulmate.

Here are 4 areas in which you can work on to become a person fit, ready and available for an encounter with your soulmate.

  1. Be Self Sufficient. If you’re looking to fill your loneliness, you’ll only find similar lonely and dependent people. It is not conducive to a healthy collaboration of two independent parties.
  2. Know Who You Are Seeking. But don’t make a list of what he/she is like. First, visualize how the other person makes you feel. From there, you can make your wish list, made up of must-haves and nice-to-haves. But focus mainly on the feeling — because qualities you thought would give you that feeling may not turn out that way, and vice versa.
  3. Be Self Confident. You deserve a great person. Believe that, have confidence in that, and don’t settle for someone who doesn’t have all your must-haves.
  4. Be Open to Change. Be self sufficient, but don’t get too attached to being on your own. Because one become two is a big change. You need to have room in your heart and your life for a whole new set of needs.

To sum up, if you want to be ready to meet your soulmate, then you need to first become a person you’d fall in love with. When you personify the qualities you’re looking for, then you’ll have a large common ground with your ideal partner — thus making you likely to be able to find and form a lasting relationship.

As always, the real work takes place on the inside.


  1. Hi there Ari – the issue of self-sufficiency is so interesting!

    I was very self-sufficient when I got together with my partner, and now we do almost everything together as though we are not self-sufficient! But I think we are really, it’s just that we choose to work and play together.

    Robin’s last blog post..Letting Creativity Just Slip In

    1. Robin,

      Thanks! Exactly — when you are interdependent, you do things together only because it’s better that way, not because you need to. Same action, but big difference in both motivation and what you get out of it.


    1. Hi Shamelle,

      Welcome to OBV! Thanks for your kind words.

      You are right about being approachable — though with this post I was focusing more on the internal work alone. I think being approachable and other good social attitude will naturally come out when a person has prepared him/her in the above 4 areas.

      I hadn’t come across your blog yet. I’m off to check out your stuff! The topic of expectations is something I plan to tackle in the future myself.


  2. Hello Mr. Bamboo,

    Thanks! I’d like to re-emphasize the practical benefit of that statement. More than just some cosmic “love yourself” mantra, what it does is that it enhances the potential common ground you’ll have with your partner. Relationships are built on common grounds — the more you have common with the person you’d like to find, the better the chance of connecting to him/her.


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  4. Hello Ari, i like your thought about finding a soulmate we need to love ourself first, so in our mind we already accept ourself as we are and then it vibrates ‘lovely’ signal to our surroundings, therefore people see us as lovable person. and this is more even true to our ‘significant other’ as he/she sees us as ‘perfect’ and completes him/her… i guess something like that.

    check out my blog if you wish, i write also about inner peace topic but it still cluttering in my mind and unclear. hope we can share common ground and knowledge.. =)

    1. Hello,

      Thanks for the comment, and welcome to OBV! Yes, I think it’s logical that when you enhance the common ground between who you are and who you want your soulmate to be, then you increase the chance of encountering that person.

      I like your clever domain name. 🙂 Good luck with your blog.


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