A few years ago my coach Tom Volkar had me discover my four core values. He read me a list of a couple of hundred words, had me intuitively pick those that resonate with me. Then I put them on notecards and just pondered which ones were most “me” over the next 2-3 weeks. Very much a gut feel exploration. The four I chose were:
- Be a Visionary
- Express Compassion
Years later I can attest to the power of this exercise. I still look at those four and strongly identify with them all.
The benefit of identifying your core values is to use them as the basis for exploring what you want to do with your life. If you are missing any it will require more will power to keep doing that activity, or that activity needs to produce a lot of extrinsic value (i.e. getting paid) to compensate. When it incorporates all four it has so much intrinsic value; you gladly spend your life doing it regardless of their outcomes/benefits.
As an empath people are the most stimulating thing, so #4 energizes me. #2 and #3 are exciting because of newness and the possibility of solving big, bad problems.
But #1 is #1 for a reason. I still think of music as the most important thing I create. I haven’t created big impact with it yet but my heart is telling me to keep going, keep dreaming of creating music that will mean much to its listeners. Acts like the Beatles, Led Zeppelin and Pink Floyd are cherished by generations. To quote from Hamilton, “I wanna build something that’s gonna outlive me.”
That said, recently I am becoming more aware of how coaching and mentoring embody all four in a more immediate manner. I always knew I enjoyed coaching, but thought of it as a side activity after I achieve other goals and build credibility. Now I am wondering if I need to do something about it sooner. I’ve had opportunities to do casual advising through my blogging and in my personal circles, and the rush of energy I get from that is blowing me away.
What do you think of my becoming a sort of life coach? I’m not going to stop being a musician but I’m wondering if the two activities will form a yin and yang that energize each other.